If you know what Momentai is, you're an awesome 90's kid.
Anyway. Yesterday night things got a little rough. And by a little I mean usually it's the sort of thing that makes a person not even want to wake up the next day.
However due to a lot of help from a lot of great people i've learned how to pick myself up when needed once I can find the time to gather my thoughts.
This way I can handle things on my own so my friends don't have to worry about me and I'm not posting back to back depressing journals/tumblr posts/etc, that make people just want to -watch.
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If you're the type to get an attitude while reading things because 'this is common sense'. I'd probably stop reading. People forget. Others truly don't know. Read and take from it what you can if anything. If you take nothing from it then so be it as well, no one forced you to read.
I added personal examples to show I know the feels but they can easily be skipped over because they are labeled.
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1. Understanding you cannot change what you cannot control. So it's best to leave it at that.
Example:
Wanting/needing the approval of a person. You can't control what anyone thinks about what you do/who you are. So the best thing to do is just do your best for you. I'm not saying you'll instantly stop wanting that persons approval but maybe looking at it that way rather than tearing yourself down, that energy can be put into something positive.
Personal example:
Personally I have 'notice me senpai' syndrome. There are a few artists I'd probably risk worsening my carpal tunnel for if it meant they'd even just comment with a 'this looks good'. [[Do not ask which artists. It's irrelevant to anyone but me]]
Sometimes it hurts feeling like i'm never good enough but then I remember there's nothing i can do to change their mind other than strive to improve and even if they never so much as glance in the direction of my art I shouldn't put them so high on a pedestal that they outweigh the hundreds of people who like what i do already.
2.What's happened. Cannot be undone. So learn from your mistakes. To have a corrected future.
Example:
What is the point of worrying over something in the past. To learn from the past is healthy. To dwell in the past is harmful. So you didn't study for a test and now it's test day. Freaking out is just going to stress you out. Acknowledge the fact you didn't study, realize to do better next time. Failing one test or even one class won't kill you.
Personal Example:
I've missed out on potential friends/acquaintances due to them instantly dismissing me over something as trivial as my giving their friend critique that wasn't sugar coated with sprinkles. Sometimes I regret that. But I can't change it and i'm certainly not about to apologize or kiss ass over something that stupid. So let it go and let it be. I'll meet more logical awesome people anyway.
3.Let Karma do it's job. I know it might seem like karma is working slow sometimes but you getting flustered over wishing you could show them what it feels like or watch them crumble? Isn't moving any faster.
4.Problems are like headphones. They don't make sense until you untangle them.
Everything seems more stressful when you're trying to take on everything all at once. It's much easier to figure out what the biggest concerns are, and what can be dealt with later, when you lay them out for yourself.
Personal Example:
I will literally write my problems down. we as people have the tendency to start cramming problems that dont even have to do with one another together. So in my mind I might have grocery money clumped in with 'oh crap how am i going to register for classes'. Those two things really could be separated. If I can't afford to eat I sure as shit better not be registering for classes so i should budget my grocery money and see if i can register for classes or if it'd be more intelligent to simply wait and pick up another job/more hours instead.
5.Do something you love. That makes you happy.
And
Momentai.
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